Kevin Jonas Says Sex is Not Worth the Wait

So according to the Huffington Post, Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Jonas said sex is not worth the wait.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/andy-borowitz/married-jonas-brother-say_b_401769.html

So, of course, everybody's first response is "Ha! I knew it" or "He's gay. He just doesn't know it yet."

It seems to me that Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Jonas set their standards entirely too high considering both of them were virgins (or possibly masturbated once or twice) before they got married. Even people in the movies/on television can get influenced by the images that are portrayed. How about that? I think this couple really needs to get optimistic and realize that they need to learn to crawl before they can run before this marriage falls apart because of their utter disappointment in each other.

Sex, good sex even, is not brain surgery. For those who can't think of what to do there are websites that can help them get better. I was talking to a friend about this subject and she told me that there's a website that will allow you to look up a bunch of different sex positions, allow you to see animations of how they're done, and be able to leave comments about how it worked or get advice from other users via the comments section. That has to be a very underused resource!

I think that a lot of people set their expectations way too high when it comes to sex. I think it tends to get over hyped. I also think people act like sex is one world where everything else is another world. I say it's all in one world. There are a LOT of things principles that one uses to be successful in everyday life that they can use to be successful when it comes to sex.

1. Your Attitude Makes a Difference:
In all things your attitude makes a difference. If you mess up you can either get up and figure out what went wrong and work on it or you can sit there and say, "Well is this all this thing has to offer?" It's like getting a new video game and being mad that all the levels aren't unlocked yet. Also, your attitude effects the people around you. Your bad mood can create a bad mood in others which will mess up what they're trying to do.

In sex, if you go to bed like, "Well lets just get this over with" you're not going to put in the work that you need to put in to get the desired result. Also, that attitude can make your partner insecure and not perform at the level they need to perform to get the desired result. Marriage is "til death do you part". You, literally, have forever to work this out.

2. Team work:
When two or more people work together for a common goal it's safe to say they're a team. Each member of the team needs to give it 100% for the team to get the best outcome possible. If one member of the team is weak, it's up to the other members to help their teammate be strong. If the entire team is stumped on an issue they don't mope around and say, "Well I guess this is the end of the road, guys." No! They get up and do something about it. When they've formulated a plan they execute it. If it doesn't work they go back to the drawing board and try it again. They encourage each other and show that they care so that they reach their goal together.

In sex, both of you need to work together. One can't lay there and expect the other to do all the work...

3. Communication:
A break down in communication between people equals disaster. Lets say your friend says or does something you don't like. If you pretend like you're not hurt to save you friend's feelings you'll end up hurting yourself and hate being around that person. If you blow up at the person then you would have created a rift in the relationship. If you tell them how you feel in a loving way then you will save the relationship and your friend will stop offending you in that way. The issue with communication is people tend to think, "Well they'll get offended if I say xyz-thing-that-needs-to-be-said." I say, say it in love. If they blow it out of proportion then at least you know you did what you could. (Chances are that person will come back and apologize.)

Communication in bed is a BIG BIG deal! People say, "Well if you don't have sex before you're married how do you know what you like?" You figure it out! You didn't know what you wanted when you first started masturbating but you figured it out. Well then this is similar except you have to vocalize what you want instead of just internalizing it and then doing it. What a lot of people do is pretend that they're being sexually satisfied by their partner to help save their feelings. What will really break their heart is that after all these this time they find out that you haven't been sexually satisfied by them at all. Why not nip it in the bud early on so that you can actually have a good sex life?

Yes they seemingly went into this whole thing with rose colored glasses, but what really annoys me is what happened when they took them off. Why would you go in front of your young, impressionable fans and tell them that sex is not worth the wait? We already have a world where kids carelessly have sex and reap the consequences thereof because their favorite artists makes them horny when they sing/rap about it. Who knows how many kids were affected by the fact that their favorite artist was waiting just like they where? Who knows how many kids were affected when their favorite artist told them that all their waiting was in vain? Also, if Kevin believes that waiting is what God wants for those who are not married who is he to around negating what He said! That's crazy! Granted Kevin Jonas isn't a priest or anything, but he does have influence over his fans. Besides, what is Kevin going to do when him and his wife find their sexual niche? Go back and say, "Well it was rocky at first but it was worth the wait,"?

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Idk...

This is going to be a little messy because I haven't quite collected my thoughts yet. I just feel like I need to get it out before I go to bed. A little while ago I was asked to check out a certain family member of a celeb. That was how many months ago? I'm just now getting around to it. LOL! I expected to hear such great things about this person and yet...

I always bothers me when I see someone who's so young, has so many resources at his/her disposal waste it to do something that will not further them as a person or take them anywhere near where their potential can take them. Watching people, especially teens, disregard their potential/untapped potential is hard. I've seen teens who are talented in many areas just throw their futures away over drugs, sex, wanting to fit in, lack of motivation, etc. On top of that, it looks like no matter what you say regarding the matter they're not listening. It's like watching a horror movie and yelling at the screen except they can hear you, but they refuse to hear you. However, looks can be deceiving.

I've learned that some people can look indifferent about something you say and really be touched by it. I've learned that people can smile in your face and act all gung-ho about something you say and not really care. Yesterday I talked to a family member of mine who was going through something and I shared with him/her something similar that I went through when I was around his/her age. S/He looked as if they were listening, didn't look particularly moved, and when I was done saying my piece we went back to doing what we were going before our talk. Did what I said make a difference? I don't know. I can just pray that it got through and that this person is really thinking about it. I'm not going to force anything on this person. I planted the seed that needed to be planted. If it fell on fertile soil then awesome! If it didn't...we shall see.

Sexual Repression

I'm thinking about doing a study on sexual repression. There are people who say that a person who is sexually repressed is taught that sex is bad and the best way to cure them is to get them to masturbate. O...k? I say the best way to cure them of it is to tell them the truth about sex. There are some parents who think that if you tell your child that sex isn't evil, their genitals aren't evil, etc then they'll want to have sex. So instead they risk their child's sanity. Imagine the hell a child who's taught that sex is bad goes through during puberty. In their mind if sex is bad then so are sexual feelings or anything related to that.

People can know the truth about sex and not have it. You don't have to act on ever single sexual feeling you have. Why not teach your kids that? Idk. Like I said I think I want to do a study on this so if you happen to have any good references about sexual repression leave them in the comment section for this post.

Thanks!

Judging...

Recently I heard something about judgment that I thought was really interesting. When you tell someone something about themselves that they don't want to hear the say, "Don't judge me!" However if you turn right around and say, "Hey! You look cute today," they'll say, "thank you"...but saying that they look cute is a judgment of their appearance.

Just like in court there are judgments that people will welcome (i.e: "not guilty) and those people don't want to hear, (i.e: guilty).

So what does it really mean when you say, "Don't judge me"? It means, "don't tell me something about me that I don't want to hear!"

Interesting, huh? :)

Money Wasted

Take a look at this sign.



This is just sad. Unfortunately this is how people think. People say, "It's 2009! Racism died with Martin Luther King Jr! I don't know what kills me more the ignorant people who think racism ever went anywhere or the people who still do this crap. The only part of this one that I wasn't offended over was "Will Lebron and Jay-Z stop calling the President and 1st Lady, 'my n*****s'," because I don't like the n-word. I will never see it as a "term of endearment" because it's not. Know you are and who you are not! It's not what your name it's, it's what you respond to! Don't respond to that! (and this isn't to the Obamas, but to everyone out there who are fascinated by the n-word, and it's not just black people, and accept being called that and calling others that...again it's not just black people.)



This is the biggest version of this sign that I can find. This may be a satire about that guy, who claimed to be a Christian, who prayed for the death of Obama saying that it was in the Bible (FYI...it's not). Satire or not this is not funny at all. What's up with the Nazi swastika? Not cool.

Arcadia High's Prom Song Ban

It was an okay idea until I thought about something...girls will still give free lap dances. Kids will still be grind dancing on other kids. Some random couple will have sex in a dark corner. You know, the normal slutty stuff that goes on at school dances that kids would hate for their parents to find out they do.

Misogyny is found in many different genres, so why are all the songs they're banning from Hip-Hop and R&B? They say that they started their mission when they were watching Oprah and she asked Hip-Hop/R&B artists if they thought their lyrics were degrading to women. (http://www.pasadenastarnews.com/news/ci_12355557) So who do we blame, Oprah for not bringing on other artist or them for not caring to do more research and taking Oprah's word as law? (easy answer....it's Oprah's fault!)

They said they had a list of 300 songs but only 20 will end up being banned from the prom. I would like to see the complete list of 300 songs. I'm really curious to know if the whole list is comprised of Hip-Hop/R&B songs. If not, why were the only songs that were chosen all from the same genres? Apparently they presented the school with the list of 300 songs and 20 songs were picked from the list.

...oooookkkkkkkaaaaaayyyyyyyy????

Also, where are the Kidd Rock songs? How about “Don’t Trust Me” by 3OH!3?

Addicted - Saving Abel
Hit That - Offspring
Rock This Bitch - Ben Folds
Clothes Off – Gym Class Heroes
Sex on Fire - Kings of Leon
Closer - Nine Inch Nails
Bad Touch - Bloodhound Gang
Crazy Bitch - Buckcherry

I'm sure there's many more and in other genres than rock too. I'll be adding them as I come across them...

In one article it says that there was a chain email going around the school telling other students not to sign the petition because they felt that what the club was doing was going to ruin their prom. Idk, but that sounds crazy to me. You can't enjoy prom if you don't hear the words, "Smack that all on the floor / Smack that til you get sore"? I'm sure you'll enjoy the music. They're not going to go all "Disney Channel" on you. I'm sure they're not going to pull out anything from 1970 something. Like they said, they are not promoting abstinence...they're trying to not promote treating women like objects.

Well, we shall see how things unfold. I kinda hope that at this dance the DJ decides to be a smart aleck and play a song that’s not Hip-Hop or R&B that degrades women so, hopefully, when they do their misogyny-free dance they’ll actually be targeting songs that degrade women and not just Hip-Hop and R&B songs that degrade women. I know that's mean, but I don't think they'll notice the issue if they don't see it right in front of their faces. After all it took something big, like The Oprah Winfrey Show, to get them to do this. I'm actually kinda shocked that they missed a very obvious one, "Hoe" by Ludacris. :-\

If you went to this prom please leave a comment telling me about how it went. I'm very eager to hear about what happened. :)

Bigotry

This blog is probably going to get shut down for this, and so what if it does. I have something on my mind and I would like to share it. Also, please do not ask me where I stand because I’m not going to tell you. After looking at both sides this is what I see and I feel like voicing my observations so I’m going to do just that.

Gay Bigots

It seems like the word of the moment is “bigot”. I’m sure that not every homosexual person is like this but it seems that the ones who are the most vocal in the gay movement (I think that’s the appropriate terminology. Correct me if I’m wrong) are showing bigotry yet they say they’re anti-bigot.

The word “bigot” is defined as:

“a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices ; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance” (merriam-webster)

I’ll agree that there are some people who are anti-gay and bigoted but just because you’re anti-gay doesn’t mean you’re a bigot. From what I’ve observed, “anti-gay” means that a person doesn’t agree with the homosexual lifestyle. Just because a person doesn’t agree with someone doesn’t mean that they’re a bigot, it just means they don’t agree. Just because someone doesn’t agree with the homosexual lifestyle doesn’t mean that they’re going to or will treat gay people with hatred and intolerance. Still if a person does not endorse the homosexual lifestyle they are assumed to be a bigot and they are treated with hatred and intolerance. That’s not right.

The word “intolerant” is defined as:

“unwilling to tolerate difference of opinion; narrow-minded about cherished opinions” (Princeton.edu)

You can’t force anyone to like you. Heck 400+ years after slavery and black people have yet to accomplish this! The key is (for both sides) you don’t have to like it, but you do have to be respectful. That means no going around saying, “Your people call me f****t so I’ll call you n****r!” There are other examples but I’ll think the point has been driven home.

Straight Bigots

There are some straight people who are bigoted towards homosexuals. Some even go as far as being violent! Come on, now. Is that really necessary? No, it’s not. Just because you don’t like what someone does with their life doesn’t mean that you have the right to put your hands on someone. Stop believing lies like, “Gay people are pedophiles”. A pedophile is a person who gets sexually aroused by children. A gay person is a person who gets sexually aroused by someone of their same sex, just like you would get aroused by someone of the opposite sex.

I don’t like how nearly every person who is categorized as a person who does not agree with the homosexual lifestyle is categorized as a “Christian”. A Christian is a person who has accepted Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Savior (Romans 10:9). There are no two ways around that. Just because someone goes to church doesn’t mean they’re a member of the Christian faith whether they want to proclaim that they are or not. There’s only one way to be a Christian and it’s found in the verse I posted.

As for Christians who hate, it saddens me. It’s so ungodly to carry around signs that say, “God hates f**s”. God doesn’t hate anybody. Don’t put God’s name on your hate! Sure God doesn’t condone the homosexual lifestyle, but He doesn’t hate them. He loves them, and calls you to love them…not what they do, but them; the human. You can disagree on this or any subject and still be godly about it. If you can’t, then stay away from the subject. I’m sure God will have something for you to do that won’t have you going around misrepresenting Him. If you’re going to teach the Gospel then teach the Gospel, not your opinion. If people don’t like what the Gospel says they need to take it up with God. You didn’t write it and you can’t change it. (Revelation 22:18 – 19). Also, come down on all sexual sin the same way you would on homosexuality. It’s all considered sexual sin, is it not? You can’t pooh-pooh a gay person, but not pooh-pooh the heterosexual couple shacking up and having babies all over the place.

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All and all, you can rep your side without the bigotry. I can and has been done.

Those are my two Lincolns. :)