So according to the Huffington Post, Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Jonas said sex is not worth the wait.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/andy-borowitz/married-jonas-brother-say_b_401769.html
So, of course, everybody's first response is "Ha! I knew it" or "He's gay. He just doesn't know it yet."
It seems to me that Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Jonas set their standards entirely too high considering both of them were virgins (or possibly masturbated once or twice) before they got married. Even people in the movies/on television can get influenced by the images that are portrayed. How about that? I think this couple really needs to get optimistic and realize that they need to learn to crawl before they can run before this marriage falls apart because of their utter disappointment in each other.
Sex, good sex even, is not brain surgery. For those who can't think of what to do there are websites that can help them get better. I was talking to a friend about this subject and she told me that there's a website that will allow you to look up a bunch of different sex positions, allow you to see animations of how they're done, and be able to leave comments about how it worked or get advice from other users via the comments section. That has to be a very underused resource!
I think that a lot of people set their expectations way too high when it comes to sex. I think it tends to get over hyped. I also think people act like sex is one world where everything else is another world. I say it's all in one world. There are a LOT of things principles that one uses to be successful in everyday life that they can use to be successful when it comes to sex.
1. Your Attitude Makes a Difference:
In all things your attitude makes a difference. If you mess up you can either get up and figure out what went wrong and work on it or you can sit there and say, "Well is this all this thing has to offer?" It's like getting a new video game and being mad that all the levels aren't unlocked yet. Also, your attitude effects the people around you. Your bad mood can create a bad mood in others which will mess up what they're trying to do.
In sex, if you go to bed like, "Well lets just get this over with" you're not going to put in the work that you need to put in to get the desired result. Also, that attitude can make your partner insecure and not perform at the level they need to perform to get the desired result. Marriage is "til death do you part". You, literally, have forever to work this out.
2. Team work:
When two or more people work together for a common goal it's safe to say they're a team. Each member of the team needs to give it 100% for the team to get the best outcome possible. If one member of the team is weak, it's up to the other members to help their teammate be strong. If the entire team is stumped on an issue they don't mope around and say, "Well I guess this is the end of the road, guys." No! They get up and do something about it. When they've formulated a plan they execute it. If it doesn't work they go back to the drawing board and try it again. They encourage each other and show that they care so that they reach their goal together.
In sex, both of you need to work together. One can't lay there and expect the other to do all the work...
3. Communication:
A break down in communication between people equals disaster. Lets say your friend says or does something you don't like. If you pretend like you're not hurt to save you friend's feelings you'll end up hurting yourself and hate being around that person. If you blow up at the person then you would have created a rift in the relationship. If you tell them how you feel in a loving way then you will save the relationship and your friend will stop offending you in that way. The issue with communication is people tend to think, "Well they'll get offended if I say xyz-thing-that-needs-to-be-said." I say, say it in love. If they blow it out of proportion then at least you know you did what you could. (Chances are that person will come back and apologize.)
Communication in bed is a BIG BIG deal! People say, "Well if you don't have sex before you're married how do you know what you like?" You figure it out! You didn't know what you wanted when you first started masturbating but you figured it out. Well then this is similar except you have to vocalize what you want instead of just internalizing it and then doing it. What a lot of people do is pretend that they're being sexually satisfied by their partner to help save their feelings. What will really break their heart is that after all these this time they find out that you haven't been sexually satisfied by them at all. Why not nip it in the bud early on so that you can actually have a good sex life?
Yes they seemingly went into this whole thing with rose colored glasses, but what really annoys me is what happened when they took them off. Why would you go in front of your young, impressionable fans and tell them that sex is not worth the wait? We already have a world where kids carelessly have sex and reap the consequences thereof because their favorite artists makes them horny when they sing/rap about it. Who knows how many kids were affected by the fact that their favorite artist was waiting just like they where? Who knows how many kids were affected when their favorite artist told them that all their waiting was in vain? Also, if Kevin believes that waiting is what God wants for those who are not married who is he to around negating what He said! That's crazy! Granted Kevin Jonas isn't a priest or anything, but he does have influence over his fans. Besides, what is Kevin going to do when him and his wife find their sexual niche? Go back and say, "Well it was rocky at first but it was worth the wait,"?
/rant
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